Six Ways to Make People Like You
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
Reflection:
What this rule means to me is that if you want to meet new people just don't start talking about your self. I mean people that don't even now you could care less. An example of becoming interested in other people is if your at school and there is a new kid and you see that they don't have any friends so you do the nice thing and go over and talk to them not about your self but about them and what they like to do for fun,what is there favorite type of music, etc.That is what rule one is based on getting to know other people.
Quote: "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." – Dale Carnegie
Rule 2: Smile
1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection:
A smile show a lot about the first impression of a person. A smile can and will show a lot about someone.For example When i meet new people i will always smile a warm smile to show them i am not a stuck up person. Like one time i was at my cousins quincenera Practice and my partner Saul was a really serious guy. so when we got to practice the second day i gave him a smile to show him that i was not a serious person and after that we started to act more and more like friends better that we used to before. What i am basically trying to explain is one some can really change a person.
Quote:"Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts."
Paramahansa Yogananda
Rule 3: Remember names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection:
What this reflection means to me is something positive to have. The habit of remembering peoples names. This will and can be a positive habit to have because it will show that you can take a interest in other people and also it will show a lot about your character and how well you pay attention to other people.An example of a bad habit of not remembering someones name is when your at a job interview and they tell you their name and at the end of the job interview you forget there name and that shows lots about your character and memorization skills.A good example of memorizing a persons name is if you meet someone and you take interest in the person and you actually like them with confessed.
Quote:
"Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names."
John F. Kennedy
How to Remember Names
A Couple of ways to remember Names are
1. Meet and repeat
2. Spell it out
3. Associate
4. Make connections
5. Choose to care
6.Speak Up
7.Writing it Down
8.Study the person's face or other distinctive features
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
" If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.
Reflection:
What this to me means is that to listen to the others and not to let people be intimidated by you. Thus also means to me is You should also help people get the courage to about themselves. An example of this Six Ways to make People like you is lets say you meet someone new and you go up to them and talk to them and when they talk to you should be a listener and not just the person that just stands there like a piece of wood and not fully listen. When you are a actually good listener you ask question and are genuinely interested in the other person And because of this little act you gave someone the courage to talk about themselves.
Quote:
"Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk." --Doug Larson
Five Active listing Tips:
- Stay Focused
- Really listen
- Allow for Periods of Silence
- Repeat the other persons words
- Understand the emotions Behind the words
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest."The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection:
This Rule has a very big meaning to it because it means that don't only talk about you interests also let the other person talk about there interest. For example if you are talking to a person only about you,you,you that can make you sound stuck up and that you only care about your own interests. If you really think about if the other person really cares about your {ex} shoes then would you want to hear about them talking about hair clips? So instead of doing all that ask them and make conversation with them about them and a little about your self.
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Benjamin Franklin
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Reflection: "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
This makes me think a lot about if i really had or even have anything in this experience of making other people feel special or they making me feel special. I only know one person that made me feel special and i made them feel special. He has been a hug part in my life because he makes me feel special all of the six's ways if what i think mostly describe my best friend because he is a person that he dose not only care about himself but he wants to be that person that wants to make you feel wanted. This six ways is about making other people feel important and not doing it in a sarcastic way of making them feel important.
Quote: " Without wearing any mask we are conscious of, we have a special face for each friend."
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
Ways To make People Feel Important:
- Make a note of the important events in her life and ask her how the events went.
- Praise them in front of other people.
- When you first call on the phone, ask if it’s a good time to talk
- Ask them for advice or for there opinion.
- Ask them to teach you something.
- Celebrate there successes
- Pay Attention
- Tell them you believe they can achieve their dream—and why
- If they don’t have a clear dream, recognize and acknowledge their skills and talents.
- Give Generously
- Invite Them
- Do the little caring things for them
- Ask them About there Day
- Make there day feel special
- Make them happy
- Take interest in there Hobbies
- Ask them to tell stories about there travels or there childhood
- Be interested and focus when they are talking
- Ask fro there input and opinion/ information on things
Reflection: Write an overall final reflection in this post regarding the "Six Ways to Make People Like You". Include your deepest thoughts and feelings. Write what you commit to do to apply the Six Rules.
The Things that i commit doing to show that i include the six ways in my daily life scheduled is to put my self out there like a person and ask people questions about themselves. Most people only want to talk about themselves 24/7 but i honestly do not like to talk about myself just out of the blue. I like to learn new things daily about other people and things. A couple of my ideas on the Six's ways to make people like you is it was informative and helpful because now i know how to approach someone better that how i normally approach people.
