Six Ways to Make People Like You

Six Ways to Make People Like You

                           Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

"Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."

"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

Reflection:

 What this rule means to me is that if you want to meet new people just don't start talking about your self. I mean people that don't even now you could care less. An example of becoming interested in other people is if your at school and there is a new kid and you see that they don't have  any friends so you do the nice thing and go over and talk to them not about your self but about them and what they like to do for fun,what is there favorite type of music, etc.That is what rule one is based on getting to know other people.

Quote: "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." – Dale Carnegie

Rule 2: Smile

1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

Reflection: 

A smile show a lot about the first impression of a person. A smile can and will show a lot about someone.For example When i meet new people i will always smile a warm smile to show them i am not a stuck up person. Like one time i was at my cousins quincenera Practice and my partner Saul was a really serious guy. so when we got to practice the second day i gave him a smile to show him that i was not a serious person and after that we started to act more and more like friends better that we used to before. What i am basically trying to explain is one some can really change a person. 

Quote:"Let my soul smile through my heart and my heart smile through my eyes, that I may scatter rich smiles in sad hearts."

Paramahansa Yogananda

Rule 3: Remember names

1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."

2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

Reflection: 

What this reflection means to me is something positive to have. The habit of remembering peoples names. This will and can be a positive habit to have because it will show that you can take a interest in other people and also it will show a lot about your character and how well you pay attention to other people.An example of a bad habit of not remembering someones name is when your at a job interview and they tell you their name and at the end of the job interview you forget there name and that shows lots about your character and memorization skills.A good example of memorizing a persons name is if you meet someone and you take interest in the person and you actually like them with confessed. 

Quote:

"Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names."

John F. Kennedy

How to Remember Names 

A Couple of ways to remember Names are 

1. Meet and repeat 

2. Spell it out

3. Associate

4. Make connections

5. Choose to care

6.Speak Up

7.Writing it Down

8.Study the person's face or other distinctive features

                          Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

" If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener." 

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems. 

Reflection: 

What this to me means is that to listen to the others and not to let people be intimidated by you. Thus also means to me is You should also help people get the courage to about themselves. An example of this Six Ways to make People like you is lets say you meet someone new and you go up to them and talk to them and when they talk to you should be a listener and not just the person that just stands there like a piece of wood and not fully listen. When you are a actually good listener you ask question and are genuinely interested in the other person And because of this little act you gave someone the courage to talk about themselves. 

Quote:

"Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk." --Doug Larson

Five Active listing Tips: 

1. Stay Focused 
2. Really listen 
3. Allow for Periods of Silence
4. Repeat the other persons words    
5. Understand the emotions Behind the words

                 Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: 
This Rule has a very big meaning to it because it means that don't only talk about you interests also let the other person talk about there interest. For example if you are talking to a person only about you,you,you that can make you sound stuck up and that you only care about your own interests. If you really think about if the other person really cares about your {ex} shoes then would you want to hear about them talking about hair clips? So instead of doing all that ask them and make conversation with them about them and a little about your self. 

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Quote:"An investment in knowledge pays the best interest."

Benjamin Franklin

                          Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

Reflection: 
This makes me think a lot about  if i really had or even have anything in this experience of making other people feel special or they making me feel special. I only know one person that made me feel special and i made them feel special. He has been a hug part in my life because he makes me feel special all of the six's ways if what i think mostly describe my best friend because he is a person that he dose not  only care about himself but he wants to be that person that wants to make you feel wanted. This six ways is about making other people feel important and not doing it in a sarcastic way of making them feel important. 

Quote: " Without wearing any mask we are conscious of, we have a special face for each friend."
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.


Ways To make People Feel Important: 

1. Make a note of the important events in her life and ask her how the events went.
2. Praise them in front of other people.
3. When you first call on the phone, ask if it’s a good time to talk
4. Ask them for advice or for there opinion.
5. Ask them to teach you something.
6. Celebrate there successes
7. Pay Attention
9. Tell them you believe they can achieve their dream—and why
12.  If they don’t have a clear dream, recognize and acknowledge their skills and talents.                 
14. Give Generously
15. Invite Them 
16. Do the little caring things for them  
17. Ask them About there Day 
18. Make there day feel special 
19. Make them happy 
20. Take interest in there Hobbies 
21. Ask them to tell stories about there travels or there childhood
22. Be interested and focus when they are talking 
23. Ask fro there input and opinion/ information on things

              Reflection: Write an overall final reflection in this post regarding the "Six  Ways to Make People Like You".  Include your deepest thoughts and feelings. Write what you commit to do to apply the Six Rules.

 The Things that i commit doing to show that i include the six ways in my daily life scheduled is to put my self out there like a person and ask people questions about themselves. Most people only want to talk about themselves 24/7 but i honestly do not like to talk about myself just out of the blue. I like to learn new things daily about other people and things. A couple of my ideas on the Six's ways to make people like you is it was informative and  helpful because now i know how to approach someone better that how i normally approach people.

 

"The Six Attitudes of High Achievers."

"The Six Attitudes of High Achievers." 

John R. Noe 

1. Make No Small Plans

Reflection: What this means to me is it like a small dream. If you don't make it big then its not worth it. For example a small plane is like a small dream most people don't remember there small dreams and the sooner or later you wont remember your small plans. If you think your plan is worth pursuing than make it as big as a plan you want or make it a big dream. Every plan is worth exploring even the little ones. That is why its important to make big plans either than small plans that are not worth it. 

Quote: "Make no little plans; they have no magic to stir men's blood and probably themselves will not be realized."

Daniel Burnham
2. Do what they fear
3. Are willing to prepare 
Reflection: This to me means that high achievers do what they are willing to prepare for. For this it means that they are willing to prepare for anything for example like a test, playoffs, competitions, etc. Many people don't like to  prepare for anything because it requires work and most people don't want to put any type of energy in to anything.

Quote: "If your inner life is not producing what you would like on the outside, don't be discouraged... just be willing to change."

Joyce Meyer 

4. Are willing to risk failure 

Refection: to me this means that you are really just trying to risk or take failure just to be successful at something. Lots of people are scared of the risk of failure. For example you not studying for a major exam that is worth 99.9% of your grade you are taking a risk to fail the major exam. Or another example not cleaning or doing chores like you promised you parents you would do you are just failing your parents expectations if you rather play video games all day and not bother to clean like you promise you parents. That is a big failure for your respect to your parents and your self. 
Quote: "The biggest risk is not taking any risk... In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks."

Mark Zuckerberg
5. Are Teachable 
Reflection: what this means to me means that high achievers are wiling to keep learning. An example of this Six attitudes is one of my uncles. He devoted his whole life to learning and his religion, but then his one regret was for him not studding enough. My uncle took years and years in college but he regrets stopping his education. He believes that he could have learned a lot more if he would have perused in his studies. In a total or an estimate he would have had 20+ years in school and college. He said if he would have the chance to do it all over again he would change the fact that he "did not learn enough." 
Quote: " As long we are unteachable we are hopeless."
ANON

6. Have Heart
Reflection: Why is having heart so important? Most people have no heart at all and they think that they don't need to feel just they just do what they want to do. Having heart means to me that you do it not because logically you have to do it but you do it because you know deep in your heart that it is the right and heart-full thing to do. An example of having a heart is when you see someone needs help and you do not help them because you do not know them but if you had a heart you will know it was and it is the right thing to do.Another example of having a heart is not breaking someones heart to make your heart or someone else feel better.

Quote: "Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success."
Swami Sivananda


Reflection on the Six attitudes of high achievers: 
What i learned or reflected on about the 6 attitudes of high achievers is that all of these qualities are really a positive impact on a persons life and i did not realize that because i never wanted to reflect om the. The main reason that these 6 ways has effected my life in a big way is that anything is possible if you just set your mind to the possibility that you wean tit to reach. i know that most people only have one of the 6 attitude in them but i also know that they could have all six if they just set there mind to the possibility that they can and will. There was points that i thought i did not have any of these attitudes in me but when i started to finish my reflections i was noticing within my self i did have the qualities in me.